I hope everyone had a wonderful Mother's Day weekend, whether you were celebrating it as a mother, daughter, sister, aunt, friend...I don't really believe it is just about moms, to me it is about the love and support of women, and they come in many shapes and sizes, and with different titles.
I had a wonderful weekend celebrating with my sweet hubby and my two girls. They treated me to a wonderful dinner last night along with my oldest's beau (he's a keeper by the way).
But what I really wanted to share with each of you today was a card my oldest gave me. You see, my husband and I are BIG proponents of "your child is not your best friend". We often see so many parents raising kids and trying to be their BEST FRIEND rather than their PARENT. It doesn't work. Let's face it, your kiddos HAVE friends, would you want THEM raising your child? Think about it...
Okay, fast forward...with that said, we DO believe there comes a time in your child's life that you can in fact be their best friend and they yours. Yes, you will always be their parent first and yes, you will still not always agree on everything, but your relationship can and will change as they get older.
Our oldest is now 22, a recent college grad, on her own, and working. That time has come where I can say she is one of my best friends (hubby being one and my girlfriends as well). Her sister is 18, heading off to college in the fall...her time will come too, but not just yet.
Here's what the card said...I'll let you decide for yourself if it was worth NOT being my child's best friend until now.
My Mom, My Friend
You'll never know how many times your voice on the other end of the line has helped me get through a bad day...
...or how often I'll remember some little piece of wisdom you gave me months before, even though it seemed like I wasn't listening at the time.
You'll never know how much it means to me to share my feelings with the one person who probably knows me better than anyone, and who has become such a wonderful friend.
I love you, Mom.
Happy Mother's Day
And, because I know she wouldn't mind me sharing...she added the following...
I love you so much, you mean the world to me. I couldn't ask for a better mom or best friend!
Yes, the day has come when I can say that I am proud to not only be her mom (or mommy as this 22 year old still refers to me much to hubby's chagrin) but her best friend.